It’s so odd to have my life perspective change with a blink of an eye. One moment I’m going about my day recovering from our traditional Christmas festivities and the next thing I know my dad is laying in a hospital bed being sustained by life support just long enough so our family can say our goodbyes. The days and weeks following his sudden passing have been a blur. With a hardly a moment to rest, my siblings and I have been working non-stop to take care my mom and everything involved with my dad’s estate. For a guy who owned only two used cars and the home he lived in with my mom (and which we grew up in), it’s shockingly surprising what’s involved with a person’s estate when they pass away.
I’ve wanted so much to get back to life as I know it only succumbing to the realization this isn’t going to happen soon. Any desire to blog on Savory Sweet Life has been put on the back shelf of my mind as I take on my new tasks of settling my dad’s affairs. The only thing I know is that everything will work out in the end and I’ll get back to sharing recipes with you. In the mean time I thank you for your patience and support. I hope to have something new posted later this week but even this may be unrealistic for me. But I know that you, who are regular readers, won’t mind. You have shown nothing but kindnesses towards me and I appreciate you more than I can ever express with words. I wish I could respond to every comment and email but the truth is I haven’t been on email much and what left over time I have to myself has been spent on taking care of my own family. But I’ll be back soon, I promise.
In the mean time I am still writing every Thursday on PBS Parents Kitchen Explorers and I hope to be back contributing to Tasty Kitchen in the near future, too. You can also find me occasionally posting personal thoughts on my other blog, Everyday Alice.
Love,
Alice
Gastronomer says
love you, alice.
Whitney says
We’ll be here. You just do what you need to do.
Souffle Bombay (Colleen) says
Alice, you are where you need to be (Hug) which says a lot about you.
I hope your Mom is doing ok as well as you and your family.
Take it one day at a time 🙂
Kristi says
Please, don’t worry about ‘us’ and take all the time you need. I cannot imagine that kind of sudden, tragic loss of such a close loved one. Prayers with you and your family as you cope with and adjust to your new ‘normal’. (((HUGS)))
Jena says
So, so sorry for your loss, Alice.
Robyn | Add a Pinch says
Alice,
Losing a parent is a major life-changing event. It’s been five years since my father passed away and it took quiet a while for me to even know what the pieces were to be picked up from my own life to put back in place. Please know that we are standing behind you, just loving you.
Love,
Robyn
Cindy says
Your post resonates with me. I lost my Dad very suddenly last March (I can’t believe it’s been nearly a whole year). It’s taken months to work out details. When death comes so suddenly, there’s so much more to deal with all at once. Take time for yourself. One of the hardest things for me was trying to keep my Mom’s spirits up while grieving and finding little comfort for myself. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Jessica @ How Sweet says
Thinking of you Alice. Take all the time you need. Prayers to you and your family.
Cheryl | Black Girl Chef's Whites says
Alice, don’t worry about your fans. We will be here when you are ready to come back.
You take care of YOU and your family. That’s what’s important.
marissa says
You go do what needs doing; we’ll be here when you get back. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Maggy@ThreeManyCooks says
Take all the time you need, Alice. We’ll be here – ready to read – as soon as you are ready. We love you!
Stacey says
Iam so, so sorry for your loss. Good luck with everything. My parents are 75 and I dread losing them.
Kath says
You’re doing exactly what you need to be doing. We (your readers) will be here when you’re ready to get back to blogging. Be sure to make time to take care of yourself, too!
my life be like says
Bless you, sweet Alice. My God strengthen your family and refresh your spirit daily, even as you grieve….
Stacy says
My prayers are with you and your family. Do what you need to do to get through each day. Don’t worry about expectations…just do what you need to do to help your mom and yourself to heal.
Turner says
Dear Alice–Sending you love and sympathy for you and your family’s loss. Don’t worry about us, your readers–we’re not going anywhere. When you can, you’ll come back and we’ll try to make as good dishes as you dish us.
Bless you and find peace–
Turner
Susan @ SGCC says
Oh, Alice! This is the first I’ve heard about your father. I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my dad 4 years ago and I know all too well what you must be dealing with. Just do what you need to do and remember to breathe every once in a while. We’ll all still be here when you get back. Take care. xoxo
Karen says
Take your time Alice . . . you are right where you are supposed to be . . . with your family. We will all be here when you are able to come back.
karen says
I, too, lost my dad very suddenly almost 10 years ago. I can understand the pain of losing your “daddy”. Take your time to grieve and support your mom as long as you need to. Will pray for your sadness/grief to be replaced with happy memories in the months to come.
Kim says
Oh, Alice. I’m so sorry to hear this. Take good care.
KY says
Dear Alice, take all the time you need. We’ll be here. May the Prince of Peace be close to you and your family.
Molly says
I’m so sorry for you, take all the time you need; take care of yourself. Sending loving thoughts your way. <3
Shari says
We are all thinking of and/or praying for you and your family. I admire you for the courage you show in sharing this part of your life with us. We are here for you in any capacity when you are ready. Take all the time you need!
Shari
Lori Campbell says
I know exactly what you’re going through. At the tender age of 38, my husband/best friend/high school sweetheart passed away suddenly in September 2010. I’m only 36 myself. The only advice I have is this…on the good days, take it one day at a time. On the bad days, take it one hour (or maybe even one minute at a time). Life will never be the same again, but one day, hour or minute at a time, you’ll create a new normal and carry on.
Take care…
Jan J. says
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and take your time!